He seems to have been quite comfortable at the Unitiarian Church and he met quickly met a girl that he was more serious about than any previous girl, even though they did not marry last I heard.
This maybe the only time that I convinced anyone to start going to church, even though I have been involved in other conversions in various ways. It convinced me that talking about the success of my parents' group is a way to get young adult singles back in church. As this is the stage in people lives in which church attendance is lowest that might be a major accomplishment.
Let me grant that I have only one data point (I only got one person to start going to church) and I am putting alot of weight on it.
The evidence that religious singles' groups form marriages that last is considerably stronger. The next landlord I had when my roommate and I parted and moved away said that the Catholic singles' group in San Francisco where he had met his wife had much the same experience as the liberal Protestant group my parents belonged to. My landlord's story was somewhat less impressive because his group only meets about once a decade, while my parents' group is monthly, so my parents' group has a much better feel for its own success. Other Catholic singles' groups also report a high rate of success.
Actually my roommate was not actually following my parents' formula. I am not sure that the Unitarian church even had a singles's group, but at any rate I think my roommate meet his girl friend at some other church function. What I am recommending is searching for your marriage partner in a religious singles' group specifically set up for that purpose. This is not about turning spiritual groups into marriage markets. It is not about flirting in the pews during church services. It is about making a decision to search for a husband and a wife and doing so with a group of people who have similar meta-physical commitments.
There are those who feel that this is not romantic, and others who feel that one should just trust God to send the right person. I claim that the experience of my parents' group and the other religious singles' groups I have investigated suggests that God honors the purposeful decision to search for a marriage partner in a way that honors him. It is Jesus who says "Seek and you will find." Yes, I know he is mostly speaking of faith and religious truth.
Tell me what you think. Here is my contact information..Last edited December 20, 2004
Avoid office romances, spread word on church singles' groups
To avoid intermarriage encourage religious singles' groups, not hate
Mixed marriages reduce contributions encourage clergy to support singles' groups
A radical idea for Catholics, a singles' group for people who plan to follow the rules
Other Point 3 studies show men how devout children are